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Back in my brief blogging heyday, I felt baffled and abandoned when a fellow blogger would vanish from my Reader. Not only did I miss the blogger’s words or photos, but I felt concern: had a crisis or illness prevented the blogger from posting? Sure, I could see skipping a few days or even a week, but to disappear completely from the WordPress landscape, without a word of farewell or explanation? That would never happen to me, I resolved with the smugness of a self-righteous newbie.
Fast-forward several months, and I have become one of those bloggers who dedicated herself to blogging for a few intense months and then dropped out of the blogosphere abruptly, quietly, even unintentionally. How can it be that blogging — the refuge and sanctuary for those who toil through dreary days with little outlet for creative expression — also has its limitations? For a blogger, too, must have discipline and balance; to share sporadically is not the thing in the blogging world. Here, too, if I wish to succeed, I must budget, plan, and prune. Sigh.I began to back out of regular blogging at the beginning of 2015, when I realized that it would be imprudent to continue my second attempt at Blogging 101. My reluctant retreat became a sudden silence. And now I sit at my laptop, having missed my first Blogiversary, hoping that my readers will not give up on me, yet knowing that there is little likelihood of my posting regularly until July.
Instead of offering a haven of empty days, the summer has prompted me to host and feed house guests, pack and unpack bags, and prepare and plan for future journeys. Dutifully, I have photographed beautiful vistas and fluttering butterflies with a wistful thought of turning this or that photo into a blog post. I have enjoyed the laughter and optimism of a remarkable group of young people. I have been blessed by hours spent not only with my husband and nearly-grown children but with my parents and in-laws. The summer holiday has not exactly been a holiday, but it has been rich and rewarding.
But I look forward to July, when I hope to peruse the neglected blogs of those whom I follow. Even as I struggle to find time for writing, I am thankful for this blog (and my other blog), and the many kindred spirits whom I have met through blogging: Beth, Deborah, Anna, Dan, April, Lucile, Colleen, Sammy D., Lia, John, Terri, Mara, Doug, Linda, Chic, and so many other writers who seek beauty and truth. I am also thankful for my daughter Emily, whose flirtation with blogging was the catalyst for my setting up a WordPress account. And I appreciate the encouragement of bloggers and readers whom I know in the “real world”: Mary Kathryn, Michael, Suzanne, and my Facebook friends, your comments and “likes” give me the courage to keep blogging.
I am also grateful for Photo 101 and Blogging 101. My foray into the blogosphere has taught me a few tips for taking pictures (the Rule of Thirds, anyone?), and I will never forget the warmth that I felt from other newish bloggers as we embarked on the assignments in the Blogging 101 class. Indeed, the camaraderie that I experienced through Blogging 101 far outweighs the value of what I learned in the assignments (useful though they were). So, here’s to another year of erratic blogging! May I be a more disciplined and compassionate blogger in the coming year. It is, perhaps, a sign of hope that this morning — the first day in many months when I have found myself alone in the house with no immediate obligations — I turned my thoughts to my long-neglected blog.
mary kathryn said:
Good for you, Sandi. Blogging can be more challenging than some think. But most in the blogging world are quite forgiving and realize that some people blog a few times a year, and some people blog a few times a DAY 🙂 And we must allow each to her own. find that I take photos intending to blog about them (and their attending event), but sometimes resort to posting them on facebook, which usually takes the wind from my blogging sails. I sometimes miss even a week, just needing a rest, but come back when I feel I’m ready. I’ll keep you on my feedly reader, and whenever you blog, I’ll read 🙂
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Sandi said:
Good points, all! Blogging is much more difficult than I realized (including the techie parts). I have been amazed by the consistency of some bloggers I follow, but you are right that there are all kinds of bloggers, with varying rates of posting. How dull the world would be if we were all the same!
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Sammy D. said:
You have no reason to anguish about your absence or inconsistency. I have found this blogging community unparalleled in its lack of expectations and its envelopment of acceptance whenever and however we are able to participate.
In fact (and I daresay I’m not the only one), I’ve never unfollowed a blogger who has ‘disappeared’ but I have chisen not to follow some who blog too frequently which puts too much pressure on me.
Don’t forget that WordPress’s tutorials – as helpful as they may be – are geared to developing bloggers who want to attract large social networks. That isn’t what many of us are seeking.
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Sandi said:
So good to hear from you, Sammy D.! And, as usual, you have words of encouragement and wisdom, especially about the goal of WordPress’s tutorials 🙂
Like you, I’d be reluctant to unfollow someone who disappeared. I’d be hopeful that the blogger might resurface eventually, and, honestly, weeding the Reader list is another form of housecleaning (which I tend to put off). Hope all is well with you and yours!
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Sammy D. said:
I have had a few bloggers re-surface and am overjoyed to hear from them (including you!). Everyone’s life has ebbs and flows but when we connect it is always special. I’m doing well; thanks for asking; I always feel my best in the summer sun !
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Sandi said:
Reblogged this on sappy as a tree: celebrating beauty in creation and commented:
Last week, while celebrating one anniversary early — my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary, no less — I missed a less important yet significat anniversary here at WordPress: sappyasatree@wordpress.com celebrated its first birthday on June 16, 2016, with no fanfare at all. Belatedly, I posted about the missed blogiversary on my other blog, which was set up at the same time but had no posts until September 2014. I decided to reblog here, with apologies to the generous readers who follow me at both sites.
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Silver Threading said:
Sandi, I think you should do whatever is the best for you. I enjoy reading what you have to say. I am glad to see you, but if you slip silently away for a bit, once again, I will still be here waiting for you! ❤ Welcome back, friend.
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Sandi said:
Awww, thank you, Colleen (and thank you for the follow)! Life has a way of intruding on my plans, but I feel sure that I will keep coming back to WordPress. In fact, I am finding it very difficult to scroll through the Reader without stopping to check in with various bloggers. But, another trip is coming soon, so I need to postpone catching up for another day.
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Silver Threading said:
We will see you when we see you, Sandi! 😀
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Sandi said:
Good way of putting it, Colleen. Turned out to be two years before I posted on one of my blogs. Not what I had intended!
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annanolan2014 said:
Welcome back, Sandi! As always, your post has been a sheer joy to read. I suspect I know how you feel: I have also started posting erratically but am trying not to feel guilty about it. After all, life does get in the way, and one needs to accept that this is simply how it is. And congratulations on your impending wedding anniversary: my own 25th wedding anniversary will be on August 30th (this year) – what a coincidence! But we actually now live where we honeymooned a quarter of a century ago. Anyway, it’s lovely to have you back.
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Sandi said:
What a coincidence that we will both celebrate 25th anniversaries in August, Anna! Early congratulations to you as well. (August didn’t work well as a time for us to slip away for a couple of days.) I’m assuming that you chose to live in the place where you honeymooned? You have mountains there, right?
I am glad that so many of my friends still seem to be blogging — with varying degrees of consistency. 🙂
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annanolan2014 said:
Thank you, Sandi; enjoy your milestone anniversary (when it comes). Yes, 17 years ago, we chose to relocate from London to the spellbinding Lake District (where we’d spent our honeymoon) and haven’t looked back since – it so beautiful here! Have a lovely summer.
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Bespoke Traveler said:
Happy blogging anniversary! I think a life lived among friends and family can never be called dreary. Enjoy the summer, fleeting as it is, and I’m certain your readers will happily return to reading your musings when you are ready to share.
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Sandi said:
Yes, “dreary” was a little harsh: houseguests have meant more laundry and cleaning, which aren’t the most exciting ways to fill the hours. But I did enjoy the guests; work is just part of life. Even blogging can seem like work at times 🙂
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Beth said:
We had our younger son and his family to visit us for 10 days in April and loved every minute of it. The day after they left I was “blessed” to wash 7 sets of sheets and all those towels, but each hour of work gave me time for meditation. I remembered this towel was Josiah’s favorite, or that one was Kirian’s or Alex’s. They were so sweet to strip the beds and put the sheets where all I had to do was place them in the washer.
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Sandi said:
Oh, how wonderful! When we get home from our current trip (taking my younger daughter to NY), I hope to catch up on your blog.
My older daughter brought home a bunch of friends in May: it was work, to be sure, but the “young people” were delightful and so grateful. (Wish I could say I hadn’t grumbled a bit, but I was so glad afterwards that they visited.)
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Beth said:
The older I get the more I grumble. I had hoped I might not be a complainer, but physical limitations sure do play a big part in how we are able to serve.
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Sandi said:
Yes, I can see that; emotional limitations can play a role as well. The older I get, the more I see how my tendency is to serve myself first, then others. I’m definitely a work in progress!
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Beth said:
Are you back?! We surely have missed you while you were “out doing other things.”
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Sandi said:
Maybe? If I can figure out how to manage my time better, I’d like to be back.
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Bespoke Traveler said:
Absolutely. Everything has a drudgery portion to it. It’s probably what makes us appreciate the fun parts even more.
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Terri Webster Schrandt said:
So, Sandi, I see I had to find you on your OTHER blog. Happy blogoversary! I missed you and your wonderful comments to my blog as well as your own great stories. Sappy As a Tree was one of the first blogs I followed probably from Blogging 101. I’m following both, so now the pressure is on! 🙂 Glad to see you back.
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Sandi said:
Thanks, Terri: I have missed your insightful and entertaining articles –and your photos as well. It is exciting to see that a good many of my first blogging friends are still around, and with growing readerships 🙂
And thank you for the follow! Some day, I may abandon the 2nd blog: the distinctions between the two are blurring a bit.
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Terri Webster Schrandt said:
I am following them both!
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Rose Red said:
I think we started following one another during Blogging 101. I learned a lot from that and had great interactions – it was a good start to seeing what the community was like.
I have those kinds of thoughts too, concerned when someone vanishes that they are sick or worse.
p.s. recently it’s come to my attention, and others, that some people I followed fell off my list due to some WP glitch. I had to add them back
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Sandi said:
Yes, I think we “met” in the 101 Commons: good memories! Wow, your readership has really grown: I noticed that when I read one of your short summer poems. Congrats! (And thanks for the tip.)
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Rose Red said:
Thank you. You’re welcome. Sorry for the ‘met’ thing. I forget that bothers people.
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Sandi said:
Does it bother people? Why?
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Rose Red said:
figured it bothered you
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Sandi said:
Not at all: in this strange cyber world, “meet” takes on new meaning; I’ll admit that I sometimes am reluctant to change with the times. Back in the 80s, I wrote an opinion piece titled “Living under the Technological Shadow”!
Sorry for giving the wrong impression–and I apologize for taking so long to read your comment.
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Pleasant Street said:
A man I corresponded with for 2 years on the internet up and told me one day I was only a blip on his screen.
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Sandi said:
Ouch! That is so far from the truth: it is the possibility of real relationships with real people that pulls me back to blogging. (Okay, I also like the writing part, but I have enjoyed the interaction more than I would have guessed.)
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Pleasant Street said:
Yes, the interactions are good of themselves I think. I know it isn’t the same as face to face contact. But I benefit from what others bring to this table.
I said what I said because you were one of the first that interacted with me and I appreciated it. It wasn’t to start up anything that would make you uncomfortable.
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Beth said:
Reblogged this on MULIEBRAL STUDIES and commented:
I could not express this any better if I had written it myself. Many times I have felt ashamed that my entries have been so erratic, and I do MISS those of like mind who have been so faithful to follow the posts.
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Sandi said:
Thank you for reblogging, Beth! I remember a time when I looked for your posts and there were no new ones: even though I knew you were busy in your real life, I felt disappointed. On the other hand, better to disappear and then return than to hide one’s head, right?
My brother Michael was the first blogger I knew personally: a non-blogger at the time, I used to wonder, “Why is he apologizing to his readers so much?” Now I get it!
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04ling said:
Hi Sandi! I tried not to nag… but I did check in every once in a while to see if you had anything new that I might have missed… Although I haven’t been blogging the entire time either.
Just don’t delete. I have a deleted blog and I’m glad I deleted it as it was a learning experience, but I have seen bloggers break for nearly a year and then get right back into the swing of it. As long as they didn’t delete, they had something to come back to.
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Sandi said:
Thanks for the advice, April! (And I appreciate your coming by to check on me from time to time.) Hope your summer is going well!
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Beth said:
Is anyone here getting a type of spam that I seem to be getting lately? The comments look legitimate at first, but checking the “sender” gives a totally different impression. They are usually selling something.
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Sandi said:
Hmm, I have seen a couple of comments like that, but they seem to be marked as spam, fortunately.
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Beth said:
They are not marked as spam, but when I go to their website, they are trying to sell writing consultations. They are hounding me to death the last few weeks.
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